Bumble divides users by ditching its signature women-first chat rule
Reddit’s popular r/Bumble community – where half a million people share dating stories and discuss app features – has largely questioned the platform’s rule changes. In particular, users have asked how Bumble was now different from any other dating app. “If you women want men to message first, use a different app,” one person wrote,…
Reddit’s popular r/Bumble community – where half a million people share dating stories and discuss app features – has largely questioned the platform’s rule changes.
In particular, users have asked how Bumble was now different from any other dating app.
“If you women want men to message first, use a different app,” one person wrote, while another said they “really valued” women making the first move.
“Women get swamped with messages, so any woman who messaged me showed real interest,” they said.
Others argued the feature had already been diluted when Bumble introduced “Opening Moves” – a feature allowing women to set a pre-written prompt for men to respond to.
But some women said they supported the change – or admitted they had grown frustrated with initiating conversations only to receive no reply.
“Honestly, men barely responded when I messaged first on Bumble,” said one person, while another claimed the “majority” of men they messaged “let our matches expire.”
Professional matchmaker Sarah Louise Ryan welcomed the move, saying Bumble’s signature feature had “run its course”.
“At first, the idea was empowering, but over time the novelty wore off,” she told BBC News.
“Women were effectively being asked to hold the narrative and energy of the connection, while men were left feeling passive or anxious.
“Bumble had real success with that positioning initially, but they relied on it for too long and failed to adapt as the dating landscape shifted.”
